The Nice Guy Paradox
Most guys know about the nice guy paradox. It's where they've been told since they were young -- both by women and by society in general -- that women like "nice" guys. And because they've been told this over and over, most guys grow up trying this approach only to have reality kick them in the groin.
This bothers guys. A lot. Why would women claim to want someone who will treat them nice, but then repeatedly turn down or mistreat those that give them exactly what they claim to want? Well, I have the answer, and like most major truisms it's pretty simple:
Women like when guys are nice to them, but only when they don't have to be.
Think about that. Most guys exclusively using the "nice" approach are doormats, and many are so because that's all they can be. They lack the attributes to attract a woman based on pure gravity (physical size/strength/prowess, ambition, sexuality, intelligence, money, etc.). As a result, these guys are essentially forced to grovel in order to attract a mate, which is patently unattractive.
Quite simply, women like powerful men to be nice to them, not feminized pseudo-men. A weak man being nice to a woman is essentially an act of submission, like a beggar bowing his head and calling you sir. Sure, they were respectful to you, but they just asked you for money so it's not as meaningful as if it came from a peer or superior.
To get the true benefit of nice in the way that women enjoy, one has to be able to attract that same woman without being nice, i.e. by the sheer force of masculine character. Only once that foundation of primal respect is in place can the higher-order offerings such as kindness be appreciated.
It's counter-intuitive and it's unpleasant, but we're dealing with nature here. Don't fight the rules. To do so is as pointless as picketing gravity or boycotting inertia.:
[ Posted: May 2007 ]
[ Updated: November 2007 ]
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